What a wonderful, witty, and arousing Netflix series starring Octavia Spenser. Did you catch it?
Having heard the name Madam C. J. Walker many times but not knowing the story, I was fascinated to come to know some of the struggles and triumphs of the proclaimed first African-American female millionaire in the United States.
First thing I took away from the series is to never ever give up on your dreams. If there is something or a sequence of things you can’t shake, you must see them through. You will undoubtedly encounter difficult roads and stumble, but your will to keep on going will get you to where you need to be, in the company of those you need to meet, and in the rooms, you belong to be in.
Not only that, but to never ever forget why you’re doing what you’re doing, why you started in the first place. Furthermore, to be very weary of wolves in sheep’s clothing. It’s a fact that not everyone rooting for you wants you to succeed.
Some people just won’t understand your vision – especially at first. There’s also no such thing as ‘going it alone.’ You will accomplish far more, at a much more advance pace, with greater quality, together. People aren’t a disappointment. You can depend on people. They can have your back. But treat them right too and never forget to have your own back first.
Care truly and deeply. Everyone will not love you and that’s perfectly okay; in fact, you don’t want everyone to. You will have to fight, almost every single day. Not just against forces out there, but also the ones in your own head.
Even on the days you don’t see the picture clearly anymore and others stray or get lost completely, you must lead. You must find the way. Why? Because you know. You know that it won’t be easy. If it were easy someone else would have done it already. If it were easy, everyone would do it. It’s not meant to be easy.
You’re meant to get your teeth sharpened, your claws edged, and your gut bulletproofed. Not to become some robot or a killing machine, but to prepare to fight for yourself and that worth fighting for. Equally, to hug so tightly the wonderful rewards given to you.
The series showed the ugliness, the divide amongst a culture still ranging strong today. Colorism, sexism, and the plight of the woman; the black woman, robust, forgiving, with hair like mines.
I rooted for her every moment I could. Recognizing some of her struggles as my own. The desire to be loved and accepted, supported and admired for exactly who you are. Flighty, introverted, reserved yet adventurous, and all the other little things.
It’s no coincidence what is coming our lives – the signs. The signs blink green once again. Age cannot be the excuse nor is money. Because it doesn’t matter, I will always be the person I am. With a million dollars in my bank account or 1 dollar. A dreamer with ideas for changing the world as I know it.
It’s okay not to want to solve the biggest, hardest-hit global issues. It’s perfectly within your right to want a peaceful, comfortable, life you simply love. To make money and love making it. To have a home in 3 countries and have an impact on an army of people. To move to the county and make jam or revel in a state-of-the-art vegetable garden. To never want to miss a beat with your kids. To curl up with really great books. All these choices are valid.
You love something, great! Go after that feeling and don’t stop. It stops being what you love? Okay, evaluate why and if it truly doesn’t serve who you are and where you’re going anymore, it’s okay to move onto what does.
It doesn’t need to be the wretched, heart-breaking, earth-shattering series of events we tend to conjure up in our bodies. Delayed and pent up emotions that gut us at our very core.
What do you have to lose? Perhaps if we give one thing an honest try, win or learn, it might be just the thing we need to take another step, and then another.
Will Smith said something along the lines of, why get worked up out of your mind for something, an action or event, that hasn’t even taken place yet. Oftentimes the energy you’ve exerted in being anxious, nervous, and restless seems so small when the action or event has been done. You probably end up realizing that it wasn’t even as bad as you were making it seem. That you hyped it up in your mind for no reason or it wasn’t at all what you expected.
Why not me? Why shouldn’t I be the first Afro-Caribbean (black) woman from the small island of St. Maarten, to own a successful local grocery store? Hell, let’s make it a chain of stores!
And while we’re at it, that uplifts her race and women especially. Oh wait, she doesn’t stop there, she’s also a multi-millionaire at the head of several health, wellness, and sustainable initiatives.
She doesn’t look for or depend on accolades or endorsements. She’s fueled by her desire to create a crazy, big, and beautiful life she loves because she knows it’s possible.
I like that woman. I really like her.
- What were your favorite takeaways from the series?
- What lessons can you apply right now to your business or idea that will curate the success you know to be true for you?
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Much, much love,