How to get ready when you’re not fully ready to make a big change

Not sure about you, but I’m the type to want to have things figured out as much as possible before I commit. Problem is, you find yourself never being “fully ready.” It then takes no time for feelings of frustration, stagnancy, and discontentment with your life to creep in – and for obvious reasons, it sucks!

Forward movement is my thing. Standing still just doesn’t cut the mustard. Progress, however slight, is necessary to my being. So what to do when you ache for big change, a fresh start, a new business but you’re trembling in your boots because you’re not sure if you’re ready?

As terrifying as it sounds, “Just do it!”

Begin even when you’re not “fully ready.” Things will either fall into place or fall apart and that’s okay. See, we focus so much on the outcome that we lose sight of the joy of becoming – the transformation.

In fact, it’s more than okay if you’re big idea or big move doesn’t work out. You know why? Because the beauty of failing is knowledge and the experience that comes with it. Once you know better, you’ll become better and then no one will be able to stop you.

Take a look people that own businesses. Why do you think that the likelihood of someone starting a second or third business is far greater than someone starting their first?

Because like anything new, anything out of your comfort zone, in the beginning, it’s hard. But as you try, learn and try again, it gets considerably easier. Not to say that running a new business is a cakewalk, but you do have more at your disposal than you did before; more tools in your she-shed.

Just like you, I too get in my own head, and consequently in my own way. So many restless nights. The fear to commit – invest time, money and energy into something you’re just not sure will work out.

But it’s really the hunger that gets you. You know the one… burning deep within. The “Why” that you need to share with the world. The creepy shadow of regret that lurks. A voice that started out as a whisper, now shouting ever so loudly; upsetting your existence from the inside out.

Left unattended, it quickly burns everything around you. Your health, friendships, bursts of anger, sluggishness, the inability to concentrate, no mood to participate and more. Draining you into an unrecognizable shell of a person.

Luckily, there are magnificent inspirations all around us. Beautiful people, teachers and stories of everyday people like you and me, dreaming, doing and making impossible things, possible. Energies put out into the universe to help restore the fullness of the gifts we all have bustling within.

Set up your safety net, avid cheerleading squad or whatever it is that gives you a slither of calm, an “I got this, so I can do that” bravado. But whatever you do, just begin and go from there.

Push past the fear. Become more fearless and fierce. Doesn’t matter what you’re dreaming of. Just know that you’re made of pure magic.

  • So, what’s your takeaway?
  • What’s the big change you want to make in your life keeping you awake at night?
  • What action (big or small) can you take right now to help get you feel one step closer to making your dream happen?

Share in as much detail as you can in the comment section below.

I’d love to hear from you and so would so many women like you. Your story may be just what someone else needs right now in their life.

Much, much love,



  • Justin

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    • lazygirl22

      Hi Justin! Apologies for the delayed reply.
      Many thanks for the compliment. I try… of course! I paid a premium for a template deck but it seems to be worth it 😛

      Wishing you all the best, Justin! We figure it out. We always do 🙂

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    • lazygirl22

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      Much, much love,
      The Femmepreneur

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    • lazygirl22

      Hi Maria,

      I very much understand where you’re coming from.

      We’ll always be overwhelmed and hesitate if we keep looking at taking action as this mountainous thing to climb. A psychological saboteur that aims to keep us within our cozy and protective comfort zones.

      This post is certainly not meant to seem as if the process of getting from scared-Sue to action-Anny is a walk in the park, because it’s not.
      It’s a daily struggle. But, like changing or breaking any habit, if you crave change bad enough (or simply are fed up enough about your current circumstance), it requires a daily commitment from you to work at it.

      Taking action is what I’ve found so far to be one of the most effective things in helping me get one step closer to achieving something. I don’t feel like no super-achiever or anything, but listening to a helpful podcast to gain perspective, writing down my thoughts, checking out how-to videos on YouTube, making a plan or adjusting an existing one, defining my ‘Why’ even further, or anything else that feels like a step in the right direction, for me, feels better than waking up the next morning feeling that much more stuck in the rut.

      Sorry for rambling on and on but I feel deeply where you’re coming from. And I hope this helps some, love. I’m rooting for you.

      With warm hugs from Aruba,
      The Femmepreneur

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    • lazygirl22

      Jonathan, thank you! Trying my very best. Glad you enjoyed it and are looking forward to more.

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    • lazygirl22

      Hi Pamela,

      It took a bit of trial and error to get it to a point I was GOOD with it. Aside from enlisting the help of WordPress for the template and how-to’s, I kept reverting to a motto I now repeat to myself very often, “KEEP IT SIMPLE.”
      Don’t get lost in trying to make things PERFECT. Just start and along the way, with time, you’ll realize what really needs tweaking.

      You’ve got this!

      Much, much love,
      The Femmepreneur

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  • Mary

    First of all I want to say excellent blog! I had a quick question which I’d like to ask if you do not mind.
    I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your head
    before writing. I’ve had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out.

    I do take pleasure in writing but it just seems like the first
    10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted simply just trying to figure
    out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints? Appreciate it!

    • lazygirl22

      Hi Mary,

      I think it’s something that everyone faces, no matter how good or experienced a writer you are.

      For me though, my workspace is number one. Clearing away the clutter, the distractions, and perhaps lighting a candle. A clean disinfected space helps me feel a little lighter.

      As for the writing itself, I think we’d all prefer to write when we’re inspired. It happens more naturally; you feel excited and the words just roll off your fingers. However, if inspiration is taking a back seat and you need to write a piece stat, I’d revert to brainstorming on an issue or pain point you’re experiencing right now. That way, you can draw on authenticity, shed light on a subject near and dear to you, and perhaps even become inspired by it.

      In this case, I’d write down some 10 to 30 headings (on 1 or 3 subject matters) before I land on one I feel good about. Then, example(s) of what I could reference to tie the piece together start popping up. From there it’ll feel less like rolling a boulder up a hill.

      The key is to not force it. If you’re drained simply by having written the headings out, no problem. Come back the next day with a fresh mind and continue tweaking until a pull to one heading grabs your attention.

      Something worth giving a try?

      I know you can do it, Mary!

      Much, much love,
      The Femmepreneur

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